Q: I think my Wife has an emotional connection with a co-worker. What should I do? Robert K.
A: First understand that we will connect with others more on an energetic level first. I think you have to go back to the drawing board. Start by courting her as if you just met her. When you like the girl, you roll out the red carpet. If it's not repairable, this is the time to do a little soul searching. No need to point the finger at any one person. Just ask yourself have you done all you can do and if it's an even flow of energy.
Q: It makes a lot of sense about the four elements but do you have to have all four to be happy? Evon S
A: Evon in the last column it was stated that you did not have to have all four. I just think when you are combining two personality that having something more then just the physical of it all. You need something else to go with that like if you we're cooking a meal. Meat and potatoes to get you started. If you got some green beans to go with that and a glass of wine. Well you have happy but happy should not be outside of yourself. If you look for another to make you happy then you really need some work. When you're combining you're personality with another it shouldn't be anything you want to change about them. It will be a reflection of one another and both will want to change for each other. The two of you will grow together, once that stops. You might have to rethink we're you both are going.
Q: You talked about you're Ex and said you felt like you had all four elements. So why didn't you go for it verses settling for Derrick? Kay M
A: Well I never thought of it that way, that I was settling. I feel I have something great with Derrick. I hope that answer you're question. Kay M
Q: I think connecting with someone on this level would send me running for the hills, but then isn't that what we want? Someone that we can connect with on all levels.
A: At that time I just did not understand it all but if I could have a redo. I would have tried to understand it more but I don't regret meeting Derrick and where I am right now. Yes we do want to connect on all levels but if everyone did that all at once, it wouldn't be any life lesson for us to learn. The one's that we connect with few elements it's still lesson to be learned. It's call karma and we have good and bad karma. So it will be some you have this intense life lessons with another. You have to stand the storm and go through it, to help you on you're soul growth. Soul growth is through the heart and you will know, when you reach a growth moment.
Q: Is it o.k to have friends of the opposite sex? My wife has a problem with a childhood friend. T White
A: I think it's ok to have friends of the opposite sex. I think if you trust you're partner, it shouldn't be any worries. You can't be in a relationship if you don't trust each other. Trust is a key part in a relationship and you can't doubt what you have. So you and you're partner should not play games if you're looking for the other to get jealous over something like this. That would be a red flag for me because a relationship should not be something that boost the ego.
Love Letters From Trey
I started dating again and it has not been easy. I guess dating really isn't all that easy, when you're in love with someone else. I guess I really haven't said that before but I assume you already knew that. I now realize that maybe I did not say it enough. Well I made it to date number four and I know for sure this is going no where. I have tried to make it work but I already know. They are just not you but I can't wait forever. I don't think the Universe wants me too. I will see where it goes but I can tell already from her touch that it is not you. When we touch we melt into each other as one. Even when I'm sitting in front of this beautiful woman I can only think of you. It's just not the same and it doesn't help that you haven't respond to my letters. We we're once very close and now you won't even answer my calls. I think I'm mature enough to know that you are in a relationship. You act like you will marry this guy. If this is the case please just say so. I just want to move on so I'm not in limbo about what could be.
P.S Thanks for checking up on my foster parents, they still love you.
Happy Holidays From